I always tell C that I wouldn't ever tell him what to do with his own body. So, although I would like for a decision like a vasectomy to be mutual, I would understand if he needed to make that decision entirely on his own.
C is all for the snip snip. I cannot stand the thought of any anti reproduction snipping going on in him or in me. It is all too permanent. I mean, it's not like buying ipods or picking out wallpaper. I wonder if this is an infertility thing?
We have friends that have had the snip snip and although all of them are happy with their decision, there is always that wistfulness when they look at our baby. I don't want regret of any form. I always want the option. Even if that makes room for a "mistake".
Now that we have Henry, I'm even more against the snip. C would have had it done right after the girl was born. The thought of no "accident", no "surprise", no Henry sets me cold. For the most part, I'm up for the "what if". Of course, I would really like to not have another "what if" anytime soon, but you do what you can!
Which is why I am keeping my mouth shut about C making a snip appt. I keep him totally apprised of all of my BC troubles, so I'm not being sneaky. I'm just not taking control of the situation. He has yet to make his appt. But when he does, I'll be right there. Supporting his decision for his body.