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Friday, March 06, 2009

A note on the snip snip

I always tell C that I wouldn't ever tell him what to do with his own body. So, although I would like for a decision like a vasectomy to be mutual, I would understand if he needed to make that decision entirely on his own.

C is all for the snip snip. I cannot stand the thought of any anti reproduction snipping going on in him or in me. It is all too permanent. I mean, it's not like buying ipods or picking out wallpaper. I wonder if this is an infertility thing?

We have friends that have had the snip snip and although all of them are happy with their decision, there is always that wistfulness when they look at our baby. I don't want regret of any form. I always want the option. Even if that makes room for a "mistake".

Now that we have Henry, I'm even more against the snip. C would have had it done right after the girl was born. The thought of no "accident", no "surprise", no Henry sets me cold. For the most part, I'm up for the "what if". Of course, I would really like to not have another "what if" anytime soon, but you do what you can!

Which is why I am keeping my mouth shut about C making a snip appt. I keep him totally apprised of all of my BC troubles, so I'm not being sneaky. I'm just not taking control of the situation. He has yet to make his appt. But when he does, I'll be right there. Supporting his decision for his body.

4 comments:

Carrie said...

We are of the same mind. I hate the idea of birth control that is that final.

I don't even tell myself that Fancy is my last baby. I don't know if she is, or isn't, but I can't think that she is. If I do, I'll be a wreck, and mourning everything she does as it being the last time I go through it. I never want to know when I have my last child. I want to decide as life comes at me.

I'm the type of person that I'd start to second guess myself and have regrets if I did something that final.... even if I otherwise would have never even considered it. I like having the option available, kwim?

But if my husband wanted it - like you, I would have to support him. We have three beautiful children, and if that's where he wanted to stop, then I would. But it would be hard to know that the baby days are over.

GL to you both as you decide which direction to take.

Carrie said...

We are of the same mind. I hate the idea of birth control that is that final.

I don't even tell myself that Fancy is my last baby. I don't know if she is, or isn't, but I can't think that she is. If I do, I'll be a wreck, and mourning everything she does as it being the last time I go through it. I never want to know when I have my last child. I want to decide as life comes at me.

I'm the type of person that I'd start to second guess myself and have regrets if I did something that final.... even if I otherwise would have never even considered it. I like having the option available, kwim?

But if my husband wanted it - like you, I would have to support him. We have three beautiful children, and if that's where he wanted to stop, then I would. But it would be hard to know that the baby days are over.

GL to you both as you decide which direction to take.

Anonymous said...

I understand what your saying about the new one, we all love him and are glad he is here. HOWEVER We are glad, overjoyed that you both are here!!! After the last delivery, the thought of you having another "mistake" makes my bllod run cold. More kids, kudos....adopt adopt!!! You can not take the chance of another preg, of course this is just my opinion, but you need to be here along time. Be safe, not sorry. The clip clip, doesn't mean you won't be a mom again, just not pregs again.

love ya
-AKR

adventures north said...

You don't even have to go to the appointment with him. He can drive himself there and back, no problems. Give him an ice-pack and a beer and a long weekend and that's about it. When you're ready, that is. If you're ready.