OK, well I have posted before about some of the troubles that Chris and I have on date nights. To me, it seems that I do a lot of the planning to not much appreciation and it has kind of been building for a while.
Well, tonight, things changed. A bit. After Chris had his nap, he woke up cranky. That sounds funny, because I could be typing about Ivy or Bec at this point, but no, it was Chris. And I wake up cranky too from time to time. But it seemed like things just got worse as the afternoon wore on.
The great night came about because, I decided to change my regular pattern and try something different. After he pulled the car out of the drive, I asked him how he thought the night was going to go. He then said that it was up to me. And I said, that I thought it was up to him. So, then, after realizing how the night was going to go, I said, "maybe we should spend date night apart tonight." He said,"Fine by me" got in his car and left.
So I got in my car and drove around listening to a book on cd. I called my sister and we went to dinner and talked and laughed like we haven't done in months. And it turned out to be a nice night.
I'm proud that I didn't make myself stay the course for date night even though I knew it was going to turn out icky, and possibly pretty bad if the arguing escalated. It has taken me a long time to let go of certain expectations. Tonight was a reward to me for paying attention. I think that date night is going to be suspended for awhile. I'm tired of wasting my money to pay for a sitter for a so/so night. I guess you can't force a good date night, but I had to try for awhile anyway. Live and learn. Maybe I'll have a date night with my sister instead!